Kink Positive Counseling at Zen’n’ish® is a space where consensual kink, BDSM, fetish interests, and other non normative sexual expressions are treated as what they are for many people: valid, meaningful parts of identity, pleasure, and connection.

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Kink Positive Counseling at Zen’n’ish® is provided by LaKisha “KiKi” Hudson, PhD, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist who brings specialized training in sexuality, kink, and relationship dynamics to this work.

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Here, kink is not viewed as a problem in itself. Instead, we explore how to engage in it more safely, consensually, and in alignment with your values, relationships, and nervous system.

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Sessions are available for individuals, partners, and relationship constellations.

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What is Kink Positive Counseling?

Kink Positive Counseling focuses on helping you:

• explore your kinks, fetishes, and erotic interests without shame

• navigate differences in comfort, curiosity, or experience between partners

• build communication and negotiation skills around scenes, roles, and boundaries

• integrate kink into your life in ways that feel grounded and sustainable

 

You do not have to already be active in kink communities to belong here. You might be:

• curious and unsure where to start

• experienced but wanting support around dynamics or emotions

• navigating a relationship where one person is kinky and the other is unsure

• healing from past experiences where consent or boundaries were not honored

 

All of that is welcome.

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What we might work on together

In Kink Positive Counseling, we may explore:

• Consent, negotiation, and boundary setting in kink and BDSM

• Aftercare and emotional processing before and after scenes

• Power exchange, dominance and submission dynamics, and how they intersect with your history and identity

• The impact of shame, stigma, or past trauma on your erotic expression

• How to talk with partners about kink interests in a way that feels safer

• Navigating non monogamy, polyamory, or open dynamics that intersect with kink

• Differentiating between healthy risk aware play and patterns that may feel unsafe or misaligned with your values

 

When needed, we also provide education on risk awareness and harm reduction so that exploration is as informed and consensual as possible.

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What Kink Positive Counseling is not

To keep things clear and ethical:

• There is no sexual contact, nudity, or live sexual activity in session

• Your therapist does not participate in your scenes or dynamics

• You are never pressured to share more detail than feels right for you

 

Kink Positive Counseling is talk based and reflection based. It can be paired with Sex Therapy when there are specific sexual functioning concerns or distress, or with Sex & Intimacy Counseling when the focus is on emotional closeness, communication, and relationship patterns.

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Affirming care at Zen’n’ish®

Zen’n’ish® is an LGBTQIA+ welcoming, kink aware and kink positive, and non traditional relationship affirming practice.

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The goal is not to make you “less kinky.” The goal is to help you:

• feel safer and more grounded in your erotic self

• navigate your desires in ways that honor consent and care

• deepen trust, communication, and understanding within your relationships

 

If kink has been a source of joy, confusion, conflict, or all of the above, you do not have to untangle it alone.

 

You bring your questions, your edges, and your desires.
Together, we tend the loam of your erotic ecosystem so safety, play, and connection can grow. 🌿✨